A lot of us have an estranged relationship with self-compassion. Most of the time, we think it means letting ourselves off the hook, selfishness, making excuses, or self-absorption.
Self-compassion has nothing to do with the stigma we’ve attached to it and everything to do with strength, accountability, and resilience.
When we practice self-compassion, we create space to see what is happening and what needs to change. It is the strongest, most sustainable tool for personal accountability.
Self-compassion looks like respectfully asserting ourselves, maintaining a limit with someone, speaking honestly about an experience we’re having, and saying “no.”
Self-compassion is an integral part of my work. When we cultivate self-compassion, we empower ourselves to get unstuck, to hold ourselves and others accountable, to stop living as though life “is just happening to us.”